Well, yeah. Its Monday blues for me. Sunday always flies perched on a fighter jet. I went shopping, then for lunch. In all, its was fine. Since, mostly I get to read my newspaper at evenings, it was at night I sat down to find about how this wonderful world is doing. In a leading English daily, they have a section called 'Mind Over Matter' where Deepak Chopra (a renowned Indian author in English) is the healing guru who guides people trapped in the 'love-life-misery' bubble. What caught my eye was the heading..'You stray when you get bored of your wife'. Blunt? Yes. True?..Well, sadly yes. The case was of a 30 something man who was married for 2 years & had a nice wife. The piece of trouble was he fell in 'Love' with a girl just 4 days before his marriage. Since everything was arranged, he couldn't call it off. BUT..he still continues with the adulterous relation coz he can't leave his wife and has 'strong feelings' for his lover (ofcourse sexual pleasures) too!!! And he can't tell his wife. Maybe, coz he doesnt want to loose 'The Perfect Husband' title. Phewww...
The first thought that would probably cross your mind, if you are a man, would be 'Lucky guy! He has his hands full'. (See, I can read your mind). And if you happen to be a woman, you would have started saying, 'What an ***hole' by now!! No sexist statement this. But guess, God 'wired' our connections differently. Its okay. Anyways, so think about it. What a coward! If he really thought the girl was 'Perfect' for him and so was he for her, why couldn't he DARE say it to both the families. It could have caused an initial flutter but it could have SAVED three lives from this long dreadful agony. His wife is almost out of picture for now, coz she doesn't even know that her dream-man has been straying. You know, when the lights are off, who cares who are you laying on. It seems like his wife is some kind of 'backup' arrangement. When you fight with your lover, you can always have your dutiful wife to pleasure you up. Vice-versa, equally true.
Why cant men get it that cowardice is the most loathsome trait of a man. Masculinity doesn't lie in the hair on your chest, strong punch of your hand, or your high pitch. It lies in your head. A man's sex appeal is his courage. To stand up for himself first. And then for his woman. If he cant do it now. He'd never do it ever. And his lover is his equal partner in crime. Why should you continue with a man who couldn't put up a fight for you if he loved you? (Was it love or lust in its garb??) Does she really respect him?? I doubt. And now if he is married, why would you sleep with him and keep fooling yourself that maybe one day, he would walk out on his wife and live with you happily-ever-after. It can't get more foolish and dangerous than this. Come on lady. Respect yourself. Move out of the scene or tell him to decide, who does he value more. What I find really sad in the situation is the trauma the wife would go through when she discovers. She would be the biggest sufferer, her only fault being that she has trusted her man all through. Anyways, who am I to speculate?? Its just that sometimes, you cant help but say what you feel about the sorry state of things in the world. All because, someone couldn't do what was right at the right time. Had the man been a little selfish at the time of making a decision on who to marry, the picture could've changed. He is selfish now. When its all the more messed up. I hope, everyone who reads this, pauses for a moment. To introspect. To trace the anomalies of your acts. To shed ego and fear. To pick up strength. The strength to set it right. Before it gets worse. And you end up loosing what you love the most.
The first thought that would probably cross your mind, if you are a man, would be 'Lucky guy! He has his hands full'. (See, I can read your mind). And if you happen to be a woman, you would have started saying, 'What an ***hole' by now!! No sexist statement this. But guess, God 'wired' our connections differently. Its okay. Anyways, so think about it. What a coward! If he really thought the girl was 'Perfect' for him and so was he for her, why couldn't he DARE say it to both the families. It could have caused an initial flutter but it could have SAVED three lives from this long dreadful agony. His wife is almost out of picture for now, coz she doesn't even know that her dream-man has been straying. You know, when the lights are off, who cares who are you laying on. It seems like his wife is some kind of 'backup' arrangement. When you fight with your lover, you can always have your dutiful wife to pleasure you up. Vice-versa, equally true.
Why cant men get it that cowardice is the most loathsome trait of a man. Masculinity doesn't lie in the hair on your chest, strong punch of your hand, or your high pitch. It lies in your head. A man's sex appeal is his courage. To stand up for himself first. And then for his woman. If he cant do it now. He'd never do it ever. And his lover is his equal partner in crime. Why should you continue with a man who couldn't put up a fight for you if he loved you? (Was it love or lust in its garb??) Does she really respect him?? I doubt. And now if he is married, why would you sleep with him and keep fooling yourself that maybe one day, he would walk out on his wife and live with you happily-ever-after. It can't get more foolish and dangerous than this. Come on lady. Respect yourself. Move out of the scene or tell him to decide, who does he value more. What I find really sad in the situation is the trauma the wife would go through when she discovers. She would be the biggest sufferer, her only fault being that she has trusted her man all through. Anyways, who am I to speculate?? Its just that sometimes, you cant help but say what you feel about the sorry state of things in the world. All because, someone couldn't do what was right at the right time. Had the man been a little selfish at the time of making a decision on who to marry, the picture could've changed. He is selfish now. When its all the more messed up. I hope, everyone who reads this, pauses for a moment. To introspect. To trace the anomalies of your acts. To shed ego and fear. To pick up strength. The strength to set it right. Before it gets worse. And you end up loosing what you love the most.
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